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Writer's pictureHanni Berger CEO JOYVIAL

How to manage the voices in your head


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In the last blog, I talked about who the voices in our heads are and how we can best identify them. Today, I invite you to start having conversations with the voices in your head. These voices represent your interpretations of past experiences, and thoughts, beliefs, and worries, about your future. These feelings have been formed by unresolved situations, feelings and sometimes traumas that you have experienced throughout life.


If we don't engage with these voices, they will continue to run our lives by reacting to everyone and everything around us. You are literally 'triggered' into your patterns by subconscious beliefs.


By examining these voices and delving deeper into their meaning, we are able to confront those feelings, situations and beliefs that have been running our minds. The only true pathway to peace is to remove these unwanted beliefs so you are no longer reacting to the subconscious programming.


Understanding why you feel negative emotions allows you to stop reacting on autopilot. It takes awareness and analysis. Using the ego questions I shared with you in the past, you can start to remove those programs.


Let’s dive deeper into this concept of removing subconscious beliefs.



What are Subconscious Beliefs?


childhood beliefs

The beliefs stored in our subconscious minds are often created in our childhoods from the age of 0 - 7. We gathered most of them from our parents, our daycare and school environment, to sports coaches and any other persons that influenced your thinking. Once formed, these beliefs are stored and rarely questioned, yet they provide the compass you live you life by as an adult. Every time something surfaces in our life that matches the subconscious belief we stored, that belief is further confirmed.


Some examples of embedded subconscious beliefs include:


  • People are not trustworthy."

  • "People aren't / the world isn't fair."

  • "It’s best not to ask for help. They'll believe I don't know what I'm doing."


The trouble with being guided by these stored and unquestioned beliefs is that if not questioned they'll continue to make you feel anxious, fearful, sad, or angry. Plus, most beliefs are not true, but we operate as if they are in fact true.


Awareness is the greatest tool to challenge your subconscious beliefs. Once we become aware that we are reacting from a pre-programmed state, we can begin to break free. Awareness uncovers the lies of how we view the world; the old and outdated programs that no longer serve us.


Our emotions are our greatest indicator of whether or not we are operating from a subconscious belief. They are the alarm bells. These emotions feel negative and generally revolve around feeling sad, angry, anxious or depressed. Whenever you feel these emotions, stop and start listening to the voices in your head.




How to Engage the Voices?


I recently experienced all three voices (ego, child and intellect) on my way out the house. I felt anxious so I started paying attention to them. All three of them spoke up. This is what they said:


Child: “It’s humid outside. I need to be careful that my hair doesn’t get all frizzy.”


Ego (annoyed that my small child had been sharing many anxious thoughts that afternoon) said “Oh be quiet. Let’s get on with it!”


My intellect chimed in stating matter-of-factly that “I do need to leave as I will be otherwise late to my appointment.”


One situation, three voices, three narratives. So how can engaging with each of them help?


My conversations with each went like this...


I asked my child if there is anything she wanted me to do about my hair before leaving the house. She agreed there was nothing I could do and agreed to stop worrying about it. She got quiet.


I asked my intellect if there was anything she felt I could do differently to make it to my appointment on time. She agreed that there was indeed nothing I could do. I assured her that even if I was late nothing major would happen.


I lastly spoke to my ego, the voice that likes to mouth off, egg the others on and be confrontational. I kindly, but firmly told my ego to be nice and to watch her language. Let's be kind to ourselves.


Peace at Last

What's on your mind

Silence. Peace. At least for a minute. That's what this work leads to - peace of mind.


If you engage and negotiate with the voices in your head, you will be left with peace. You will also have a true sense of empowerment, since you are taking charge of managing your mindset instead of your mindset managing you.


Remember that not everything your voices are saying is true. To bring awareness to what's 'on your mind' you need to listen to your mind. Shine a light on your fears and worries and you'll most often realized that they aren't as big or worrisome at all. Plus it gives you a chance to create solutions to your concerns rather than letting them fester unheard in a knot in your chest or throat.


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