Hanni Berger CEO JOYVIAL
How To Manage the Voices in Your Head?
In the last blog, I talked about who the voices in your head are and how you can best identify them.
Today, I invite you to start having conversations with the voices in your head. These voices represent your past and sometimes your fear of the future. They are the unresolved situations, feelings and sometimes trauma that you’ve experienced since childhood.
If we don't resolve and come to terms with these voices, they will continue to run our lives by reacting to everyone and everything around us. This is what the term “to be triggered” means.
You are literally triggered into your patterns by subconscious beliefs.
By examining these voices and delving deeper into their meaning, we are able to confront those feelings, situations and beliefs that have been running our lives. The only true pathway to peace is to remove these unwanted beliefs so you are no longer reacting to the subconscious programming.
Understanding why you feel negative emotions allows you to stop reacting on autopilot. It takes awareness and analysis. Using the ego questions I shared with you in the past, you can start to remove those programs.
Let’s dive deeper into this concept of removing subconscious beliefs.
What are Subconscious Beliefs?
The beliefs stored in our subconscious minds are often created in our childhoods from the ages of 0-7. We gathered most of them from our parents and our surroundings. Once formed, these beliefs are stored and rarely questioned, yet they provide the compass we live by as adults. Every time something surfaces in our life that matches the subconscious belief we stored, that belief is further confirmed.
Some examples of embedded subconscious beliefs include:
“The world is a dangerous place, I must be on high alert all the time”
“People are not trustworthy; They are not fair; It’s best not to ask for help, it will only be used against me”
”Why am I always running late; I can’t seem to ever be on-time.”
The trouble with being guided by these stored and unquestioned beliefs is that all of them are simply not true. We created them, often as a form of survival, but now in our adult lives they are outdated and no longer useful. But, we don’t know this and continue to operate as if they are in fact true.
Awareness is the greatest influencer of challenging our subconscious beliefs. Once we become aware that we are reacting from a pre-programmed state, we can begin to break free. Awareness uncovers the lies of how we view the world; the old and outdated programs that no longer serve us.
Our emotions are our greatest indicator of whether or not we are operating from a subconscious belief. They are the alarm bells. These emotions feel negative and generally revolve around feeling sad, angry, anxious or depressed. For a deeper understanding, we can question these emotions and dig into their true origin.
How to Engage the Voices?
I recently experienced all three voices (ego, child and intellect) on my way out the house. I felt anxious so I started paying attention to them. All three of them spoke up. This is what they said:
Child: “It’s humid outside. I need to be careful that my hair doesn’t get all frizzy.”
Ego (annoyed that my small child had been sharing many anxious thoughts that afternoon) said “Oh be quiet. Let’s get on with it!”
My intellect chimed in stating matter-of-factly that “I do need to leave as I will be otherwise late to my appointment.”
One situation, three voices, three narratives. So how can engaging with each of them help? My conversations to each:
I asked my child if there is anything she wanted me to do about my hair before leaving the house. She agreed there was nothing I could do and agreed to stop worrying about it. She got quiet.
I asked my intellect if there was anything she felt I could do differently to make it to my appointment on time. She agreed that there was indeed nothing I could do. I assured her that even if I was late nothing major would happen.
I lastly spoke to my ego, the voice that likes to mouth off, egg the others on and be confrontational. I kindly, but firmly told my ego to be nice and to watch her language. Let's be kind to ourselves.
Peace at Last
Silence. Peace. At least for a minute. That's what this work leads to - peace of mind.
If you engage and negotiate with the voices in your head, you will be left with peace. You will also have a true sense of empowerment, since you are taking charge of managing your mindset instead of your mindset managing you.
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