Who’s in Control? You or Your Emotions?
Wherever You Are Right Now is OK. Let me repeat that. Wherever You
Are Right Now is OK.
“As our world is being rearranged, as the old ways are crumbing, it’s wildly important to be exceedingly kind to yourself. To repeat, again and again, the two magic words:
“It’s okay.” - Pam Grout
So what does this mean exactly?
Like me, you may find yourself laughing in one moment and crying in the next. That’s okay.
Like me, you may find yourself eating healthy foods most often, but then ravaging the chocolate box a minute later. That’s okay.
Like me, you may find yourself loving the silence (or commotion) in your house one moment and then wanting to scream because of the emptiness (or overwhelm) in the next. That’s okay.
Be okay with where you are at. Stop the judging, the ‘I should’ or ‘I shouldn’t’ and the constant need to be strong.
I’m not going to lie, the past few weeks are challenging for us all. On a personal side, I find myself experiencing a roller coaster of emotions. I go from accepting, joyful, and optimistic to being swept away by tears and heaviness.
Watching our clients - many are CEOs of large corporations - navigate this challenging time is tremendously inspiring. Their scope of responsibility spans across thousands of employees, multiple countries and cultures, and diverse challenges on a daily basis. I’m in awe of their leadership and we, at JOYVIAL are humbly supporting their teams as best as we can.
Observing these incredible business leaders but also the approach our JOYVIAL health coaches and I are taking, I’m seeing a theme that seems to keep us sane and level-headed. That theme is awareness and focus.
Taking Control of Your Emotions Starts with Awareness
Many of you know renowned author and speaker, Brene Brown. In her
recent podcast “Unlocking Us” she
talks about our belief that we need
to rank our suffering. We tend to rationalize that our challenges aren’t
as bad as other people’s and therefore we should disregard our own suffering. There is a notion that empathy is finite and there isn’t enough empathy for others AND ourselves. There is enough to go around. Honor yourself and acknowledge the awareness that you are in fact suffering and that is OK.
Awareness implies that you put yourself into an observer role of your own life -
your thoughts, your emotions, your actions, and your habits.
Being the observer of what’s happening within you allows you to make the conscious decisions about how to proceed. If I’m sad, do I want to feel that sadness right in that moment? Do I want to assess what’s at the core of my sadness? Do I want to change my focus to something else? All these decisions can only happen when you bring awareness to your every thought and action.
One evening, when I was exhausted from crying so much, I brought awareness to how I spent my day. In that assessment I realized that I ignored all the tools and techniques I use to keep perspective. Said in another way, I needed to bring back my focus. Focusing on what I CAN do versus what I can’t, or do not have control over.
Focus on What’s Important to YOU
One of our clients, a CEO of a global company with 3,000 employees, said
to me “If it’s anything I have learned,
it is that when our work is grounded in caring for others it is so meaningful.” Did you catch that? She has a clear focus on how to run her company, a focus to care for others. What is your focus?
4 Key Ways to Help You Stay Focused
1. Remain mindful, conscious, and aware of how you want to show up each day. That’s a daily question in the morning. “What’s the best version of me today?” On some days that vision is more ambitious than on others.
2. Maintain a routine of habits that nourish your soul. For me that’s 7-8 hours of sleep, meditation, some form of movement, nourishing meals, and connecting with God.
3. Remind yourself of your intention to see the world like a glass half-full (and not half empty). That means focusing on the good in every situation. It also means choosing
to focus on the life-lessons you can take from any situation.
4. Connect with the people you love, people that uplift you and love you back.
What are the things you want to focus on in the coming months? We are here to help! JOYVIAL health coaches are ready and excited to assist you in creating a wellness plan for your life. Please reach out and know we are truly here to help. Contact us today at 1-866-JOYVIAL for your complimentary session.